4 Subconscious Beliefs That May Be Sabotaging Your Relationships

Reoccurring patterns in your life are caused by deep-seated beliefs in your subconscious, whether you believe them on a conscious level or not. These subconscious beliefs come from many different sources including genetics, childhood experiences, other lifetimes, soul contracts, etc.  Patterns that pertain to your relationships, your health, your weight, your self- esteem, your finances, (ALL areas of your life) all stem from your subconscious beliefs.  By locating and changing the blocks that are being held on the subconscious level, we facilitate healing on all levels; physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

To give you a better understanding of this, I will go over 4 subconscious beliefs that may be sabotaging your relationships.

#1- “I don’t deserve love”

This belief is much more common than you would think. Having it would manifest into your reality, relationships that are meaningless. You would attract, to you, relationships that are superficial and not loving. If love is attracted to you, you will subconsciously push it away.

#2- “I need to control _(insert person’s name here)_”

This is a very popular subconscious belief and it actually attracts the kind of relationship that is out of control. The need to control someone leads to feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, jealousy, and anger. An underlying belief that usually goes along with this one is “I need to control myself”.

#3- “I need to fix _(insert person’s name here)_”

This is a complicated belief because feeling the need to help someone usually shows up as a need to “fix” them. This causes people that you have relationships with, to always feel that they are not good enough. That is never a winning situation. An underlying belief that usually goes along with this one is “I need to fix myself”.

#4- “I am afraid of losing _(insert person’s name here)_”

You may be thinking “of course I am afraid losing ___________”. The thing to understand about beliefs is that they create an energy which attracts more of the same energy. So, if we are afraid of losing someone, we will ultimately attract to us, ways of losing this person. This usually manifests as you pushing the person away, subconsciously sabotaging yourself. Having a fear of something actually attracts it to you.

Test your subconscious to see if you have any of these beliefs that may be sabotaging you.

*If you haven’t read my free ebook yet, which includes the instructional guide “How To Test Your Subconscious Beliefs”, you can sign up for it HERE.

Relationships are complicated. When we consider our own subconscious beliefs and how they affect our reality, it’s complicated enough. But, when you add another person and the mess of beliefs in their mind that can either align or completely rival our mess of beliefs, it can be a recipe for disaster.

It’s hard enough to sort through our own insecurities and fears.  It’s even harder to do that while being bombarded by everyone else’ opinions & judgments. You start to wonder where your emotions and thoughts start and their’s end.

Learning to have a higher perspective is the easiest way to transform how we see ourselves and others. The problem is that we all have limiting beliefs that block us from this higher understanding. We need to update these beliefs- clear out what we no longer need and create new beliefs that empower us. I have created a “Relationship Upgrade” program, which is a PDF & MP3 bundle, to help you clear the limiting beliefs, including the 4 above, to that higher perspective. This program can be used on each and every one of your relationships.

Here are examples of relationships you may want to upgrade;

Boss                                                  Siblings

Spouse                                             Parents

In-laws                                              Friends

Children                                           Lover

“Enemies”                                        Bank account

Creator (God)                                  The universe

Government                                    Society

Your emotions                                 Your mind

Your spirituality                               Your mood

Your body                                        Your self

Your Higher Self                              Your house

Your Car                                           Economy

Drugs, alcohol, etc.                         Food

Shopping                                         Being human

Your culture                                     Neighbor

Pets                                                  Fear

If you decide to purchase this Upgrade, the very first relationship you must work on is with yourself. When we change our perspective of ourselves, when we can see the darkness, the shadow personality, in ourselves and choose to see through it, we activate unconditional love within ourselves that flows out to everyone around us. Some people may notice this new energy from you. Those that need to work on their own perspectives may not.

When you can allow yourself to have a higher perspective of another, when you can see the truth of them without judgment, you unlock that kind of higher perspective within them as well. They change the way they view themselves. They change the way they view you, too.

Not every relationship is worth having, though, and having a higher perspective of toxic relationships helps us to understand the lessons from them so we can move on without needing to repeat the pattern.

My “Relationship Upgrade” is like a reset button. Sometimes the effect of this reprogramming is immediate and obvious. Sometimes, it involves more of a process and develops slowly, depending on how many other beliefs are attached to the relationship. But, nonetheless, an upgrade is an upgrade, and any “restart”, even a slower one, is better than none at all.

Also included is the Soul Fragment Retrieval technique

This technique is only available in this program. Soul Fragment Retrieval used to take so much time to do. Many people had to do long drawn-out rituals to do them. With my quick & simple process, you’ll be able to do a Soul Fragment Retrieval on every relationship that you upgrade!

You can use this upgrade over & over for as many relationships that you can imagine. You only need to listen to the audio one time for each relationship that you want to upgrade.

While using the theta healing audio, you will test your subconscious beliefs, I will reprogram the beliefs, and you will test the beliefs again to make sure they have changed.

*Do not listen to the theta healing MP3 audio while driving

Purchase the 18-page “Relationship Upgrade” downloadable digital PDF file with the “Relationship Upgrade” downloadable digital MP3 audio for $77 now to change your life forever ❤

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This information is NOT included in my “Learn to Reprogram Yourself! 7 Steps To Empowerment” course. But, if you have taken that course, you’ll be able to purchase the Relationship Upgrade PDF ONLY version & reprogram the beliefs in this Upgrade for yourself more quickly than listening to my audio. The cost for the PDF only version is $47

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Clearing Out The Clutter

I think our lives are filled with opportunities to see the big picture. We are always being shown the reasons we are here, ideas to cope with being here, & the meaning of life. The trick is to keep an open mind.

My brain always sees analogies in everyday occurrences. I think it’s cool, so I thought if I could share it with you, maybe you will start to see signs the way I do… if you don’t already 🙂

My husband and I had a complicated issue to deal with recently. A friend of ours needed to move, but before he could move, he needed to get rid of a giant 40 x 8-foot container that sat on his property. We actually needed this type of storage on our property to help us to be able to sort through our stuff & my mother-in-law’s stuff, which we hadn’t had the room to do since moving into our house about 5 years ago.

So, anyway, we figured it was a win-win. Our friend needed the container off his property and we needed the storage. The catch was…. it was FILLED with his uncle’s stuff. This uncle, I’ll call Stu, lived with our friend and was, apparently, a hoarder. Stu was also not in great health & could not (or would not) clear out his stuff on his own. So, we agreed to take the container, along with all of the crap inside of it, with the plan to go through it all and consolidate anything worth saving, thus leaving us room to store my mother-in-law’s stuff.

Stu was a simple, although confusing, kind of man. He was never married. He never had children. He was living in the same house for his entire life. He was a trashman for most of his life, which was where he found most of the things he hoarded. He had saved hundreds of lawnmowers at one point but never fixed one. Luckily, those were not in this container.

He had about 50 different magazine subscriptions and saved every magazine that was ever delivered to him since the 60’s!

He had all kinds of radios (mostly broken) & books about fixing radios. Our friend said he never fixed any radios.

He had all kinds of maps and tourist brochures from all over, but he never left his town.

He had a small fishing boat & fishing magazines, but he never fished. He never even used his boat.

As I was sorting through all of this stuff, I thought about our subconscious & the beliefs that are stored in them.  This container was like Stu’s subconscious. He had dreams of fishing and traveling. He had hoped to fix things & make things better. But, bigger than his hopes and dreams, were his fears. Fears of letting go.

I would open a plastic bin and sort through junk mail from 15 years ago and old family pictures. I would toss out the junk & save the memories. I felt like I was actually doing subconscious reprogramming. Lol.

We tossed all of the old magazines. If he needed to find any important information from them, he could easily find it online, or even at the library, if needed. There is no need for any of us to hold onto stuff that takes up soooo much space and is so heavy when we can use the updated ways of finding the same information. That goes for our subconscious beliefs as well as magazines 🙂

When the re-organizing work was all finally done, Stu’s stuff took up less than 1/4 of the container.

Stu chose to fill his space & his mind with all of this unnecessary junk that left him no room for growth, no room to have new, useful things.

What would his life had been like if he had learned to let go? Maybe he wouldn’t be so sick right now? Maybe he would have taken a few risks to follow his passions & follow his dreams. Maybe he would have had the confidence to find love. Maybe he would have had the clarity to see things differently.

Our minds, like the giant container, can only hold so much. So, we need to let go of beliefs & things that no longer serve us. We need to let go of beliefs and things that actually block the possibility of good things coming to us. Release the old & bring in the new! Release the bad & make room for the good! Clear out that clutter!

Don’t you always feel amazing when you reorganize? Or when you Spring clean? Or when you donate or throw out a bunch of physical things you no longer use? That’s exactly the same feeling when you do this for your mind. It’s cleansing ❤

If you want to know the kinds of clutter hiding in your subconscious, get my free ebook here.

Love & Blessings,

Sarah Jean Keller